“Lori, get that look off your face!”

I remember sitting on the arm of the sofa at my grandmother’s on Christmas several years ago when my sister brought to my attention that my face was saying what my mind was thinking.

Several new faces were walking through the door, and I couldn’t put it all together.  I wasn’t in a reality puzzle. It was Christmas, the happiest season of all….right?  All I had to do was enjoy the moment and be fully present.

I learned a valuable lesson that night.  Others hear what I can’t see that I am saying but I said it without saying a word. I said it in silence!

Most of us are alike.  Our facial expression, eye movement, personal space, and overall body language speaks for us. 

When you are silent, what are you saying?

The truth is that even when we are saying anything, just listening, or maybe even a million miles away mentally.  We are sending nonverbal...

In this episode of Get Your Rear in Gear with Lori, host Lori McAfee explores the paradox of being a work in progress and a masterpiece at the same time. She compares life to a canvas, where we continuously add color, shape, and experiences to create something unique.

Despite the challenges and painful experiences, McAfee suggests that they are all part of our purpose and pathway. She reminds listeners that they are fearfully and wonderfully made, just as Psalm 139 says. Tune in to embrace the paradox and discover the beauty of being both a work in progress and a masterpiece.

“Use your gifts and your talents to fulfill the purpose that God has created you for, what he's placed you here to do.”

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My mantra when meeting new people is, “everyone has a story.”

I know this story consists of moments, memories, and experiences shaping who we are today.

Our story develops and fosters a system of beliefs that influences how we think, feel, act and react in any given situation, and this is a mindset. I have come to believe that our mindset is everything.

Sadly, our “story” has pages, even chapters, that we would like to rip out for many of us. We were caught in the trap of a negative mindset. At least that was me, notice I said, “was.” That’s why I am so passionate about helping you change the trajectory of your story.

Any form of change can seem like a daunting challenge, and it’s a challenge worth taking. The effort to change your mindset is one of the most powerful things you can do, the greatest act of self-care.

First and foremost is awareness. By staying in check with your thoughts and feelings, we better understand...

In this episode of "Get Your Rear in Gear with Lori," host Lori McAfee is joined by her mentor and inspirational figure, Amberly Lago. Amberly is a peak performance coach, TEDx speaker, best-selling author, and founder of the Unstoppable Life Mastermind.

Lori and Amberly discuss resilience, transformation, and finding true purpose in life. They also reflect on their journey of connecting through social media and how it has come full circle. Tune in to gain insights and inspiration from this dynamic conversation.

"Grit without connection is where you're going to find more resistance."

Get your free copy of True Grit and Grace: http://Amberlylago.com/freebook 

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We all have a gory story. One that we are sometimes afraid to tell. This story is filled with overwhelm, shame, or fear. It may have been a story from your early past, a teenager, or, this story could be one you’re living right now.

This story helps shape who you are today. My job as a life coach is to help move you toward who you want to be.

Those who sow in tears shall reap in joy. – Psalms 126:5

Move forward into a new story

As a client at Perspective Life Coaching, I help you move forward in creating a new story. One filled with freedom, joy, and forgiveness.

I have found it critical for clients to understand the forward-moving component of coaching. This forward movement is what distinguishes coaching from counseling.

Many of us get stuck in overwhelm when we think the answer to getting unstuck is complex and too hard. As your life coach, I help you get unstuck by creating a simple path toward achieving your goals.

I’ll ask you the tough questions you’ve...

In this episode of "Get Your Rear in Gear with Lori," Lori McAfee discusses her marriage and shares 31 things she and her husband have learned throughout their 31 years together. She reflects on the challenges and joys they have experienced in their relationship.

Join Lori as she delves into the essence of love and the importance of mutual respect in a strong marriage.

"Keep Christ center of your marriage. Love your spouse second."

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Have you ever felt like you exist, but no one really sees you?

I’ve been there many times, especially as a young woman. I took myself way too seriously. I spent a lot of time comparing myself to my friends. Where they lived, what car they drove, what they wore, who they were dating, etc.

I was always trying to be someone I wasn’t, instead of just being myself. Luckily, I went through this phase before social media was a thing. But I still felt sub-par, ashamed, and lacking self-confidence.

I can tell you from experience, that is no way to live. Before I changed things around, my anxiety was through the roof and I always felt depressed.

It wasn’t until I learned how to be myself and not let society dictate who I was, I then began to feel more seen.

Here are three ways you can stop comparing yourself to others.

Recognize you are doing it. Acknowledging you are constantly comparing yourself to your friends, or people you follow on social media is half the battle....

The power of boundaries in building healthy relationships is a topic that is often overlooked, yet it holds immense potential in transforming our connections with others. Lori McAfee, a renowned expert on this subject, offers a unique perspective that challenges the conventional understanding of boundaries. She believes that boundaries are not barriers, but bridges that foster trust, empathy, and mutual respect. McAfee's insights are derived from her extensive experience and deep self-reflection, leading her to view setting boundaries as an act of self-respect and self-care.

She acknowledges the resistance that may come with setting boundaries but emphasizes their necessity for maintaining emotional, mental, and physical well-being. Join Lori McAfee in this enlightening episode of the Get Your Rear in Gear podcast, as she delves deeper into the transformative power of boundaries in cultivating fulfilling and balanced relationships.

"Boundaries have the potential to strengthen and...

Horrendous.

Eccentric.

Cringy.

Whatever the term, there is something to be said about a toddler’s choice for fashion and the confidence in their choice.  We were once that confident, but somewhere along the way, or maybe even as the years progressed, that spirit slowly trickled away.  We found ourselves stuck between past heartaches, the opinions of others, and the conflict of comparison.  We continuously placed our capabilities on a linear passage between these two rocks and often fell short.

Every.

Single.

Time.

Now, we look in the mirror and see someone we don’t even recognize.  She’s so far away from who she once was.  The face may resemble the same person, but the inside is as dark as night.  However, we have hope.  Although we have become unrecognizable to ourselves, we are fully known and recognized by God.  How comforting know He recognizes and knows us.

Luke 12:7 is a gentle reminder that every hair on our head,...

In this enlightening episode of "Get Your Rear in Gear with Lori," host Lori McAfee delves into the compelling topic of breaking free from compromise and embracing authenticity. McAfee, drawing from her personal experiences and journey, shares her unique insights on the detrimental effects of compromising oneself for acceptance or gain, and the importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing oneself without guilt.

She emphasizes the power of self-love, personal growth, and honoring one's true desires and passions, which often get compromised in the pursuit of fitting in. Don't miss this empowering episode where Lori McAfee invites you to join her in the journey of embracing your true self and living a life aligned with your true purpose.

"But constantly compromising yourself for others or something, that's not fair. That's not the way life was intended."

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